6 Types of Intimacy


When couples lose desire or interest in
their partner, many times they’ll blame that they don’t have enough time in the
bedroom. This may be part of the problem, but the problem is more complex than
that. After all, sex is only one type of
intimacy. Today on Reaction Reset, I’m going to
talk to you about five types of intimacy, and why practicing them is crucial to
your relationship. When couples are first together, they
explore things together, and they’re alive with their feelings of connection with
each other. But as you stay married and you have kids, have financial concerns or
struggles at work, there’s less communicating between the couple. When
they come home, they’re exhausted and they’re busy. So what ends up happening
is more pressure is put on the sexual connection. One
partner feeling urgent and a need for it and rejected, the other partner feeling
used or that they’re only there for one thing. This causes tension within the
relationship. That tension goes on to create more arguments, more conflict, and
soon neither partner is interested in sexual or other types of intimacy
anymore. Intimacy, not sex, is the glue of a long-term loving relationship. Today,
I’m going to talk about five different types of intimacy. I encourage you to
talk with your partner to begin practicing the other forms of intimacy. The reason is because you’ll start noticing your feelings change towards
your partner. You’re going to want to start hanging out together more, and with that
you’re going to spark your relationship – the physical/sexual part as well as the
emotional connection. The first one is experiential intimacy. This is taking the
time to experience things together. It can be as simple as a hike or sitting on
the park bench and talking, or it can be as exotic as taking a trip abroad or
going bungee jumping. It’s not what you do together, it’s that what you decide to
do together you do without distractions (and that means phones or kids). Second type is emotional intimacy. This means you feel safe to be vulnerable and
share what you’re feeling, and you’re not going to be judged or criticized or looked
down upon by your partner. This is your partner’s ability to sit with you, be
present with you while you cry, and still be a supportive mate. Basically, couples
who don’t have this part developed well in their relationship are at a
higher risk of divorce. Emotional intimacy is the main glue of all
intimacy for the relationship. The third type is intellectual intimacy. This is
very important because many couples overlook this; but it’s the ability for
couples to share interesting books or even magazines, or going to
movies that one of the partners finds exciting and talking to their
partner about that. When you have this type of intimacy shared on an
intellectual level, you’re going to add excitement into the relationship as well
as personal growth. It’s very important. The next one is spiritual intimacy. This
one is something as powerful as witnessing a miraculous event together – whatever that is for the couple – and actually being able to share it. It’s the
ability for the couple to wrap their minds around doing something or creating something that’s contributes to something bigger than they are – whether
it’s a project they work on together or practicing the same faith together. Spiritual intimacy bonds the relationship and keeps it tight. The
fifth one is physical intimacy. This is not the same as sexual intimacy, but this is the
ability to be affectionate to touch a partner – to hug them, to touch the back of
their neck when they’re driving – it’s the little things that couples do to
demonstrate their presence. Following this is obviously the sixth form of
intimacy, which is sexual intimacy. This is not to be neglected because it’s
a very important part and, in fact, it is the absolute most intimate you can
possibly be with your partner. Although TV makes you
think this is all people want, I rarely see this in my practice. In
fact, what I see more is that sexual intimacy is enhanced when the other
intimacies are combined with it. It basically is the format of what every
human being wants – to be loved, to feel exclusive to another person, to feel as
if we’re connected and we matter to someone we hold in high regard. Remember, change your reaction, change your world.

Author Since: Mar 11, 2019

  1. How very true this is how important it is to practice this and recognize this always in a marriage thank you for talking about this subject very appreciated

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