How to Improve Self Disclosure : Avoid Self Disclosure to Non-Intimate People
Now, when we’re talking about self disclosure
we’re talking about revealing things to people. Maybe secrets maybe personal things, maybe
skeletons in our closet. Something that you want to do is you want to resist the temptation
to disclose really intimate things early in relationships or to non intimate people in
your life or acquaintances. And a lot of people make this mistake. A lot of people, you know,
maybe go to work and tell their boss about their sex life. o.k., that?s a recipe for
disaster. Only reveal things to people that you feel safe with and only reveal certain
information to certain people. As well as, be cautious about the early stages of relationships.
If you, you know, I met a girl one time and the day that I met her she said to me “Hi,
I’m Marty. I was sexually abused by my father.” O.K. that is way to early in any relationship
to reveal that kind of information. So pick the stage and pick the person before you decide
to reveal the information.